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Heavy reality

My heart is heavy.  I'm facing the reality that I'm giving a very serious diagnosis to an orphan.

If this was a child in North America, his parents would be grieving, angry, and reaching out to find resources and support...

If this was a child in North America, his future would be full of plans for transitional care, skills training, adult living options, surgeries, medication after medication after medication, specialized diets...



Here's a reality about orphans worldwide, but specifically in sub-Saharan Africa: this kiddo has relatives.  But, for reasons that I will keep private, they have rejected him.

So, he does not have an advocate.  He does not have a mom to stay up at his side all night watching over him.  He does not have a dad who will run into town to get his medication before it runs out.  But he also does not automatically have the option for adoption because he still has relatives.

The good news? He has us! Praise God that he is a Home of Love child.

The diagnosis is still difficult.  His prognosis is still uncertain.  But at least we have a broad support network that gives confidence that we will find the right placement and options for his care.  Pray that the relatives will understand and make the right decisions about his care.  Pray as I seek 3rd and 4th opinions regarding his diagnosis!

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